I recently turned 40 and realized what a blessing to have made it here! In my opinion I have had what one may call a full life. I have experienced life and love in every aspect imaginable. I am currently single and have been for about two years now, I might add this is the longest time I have ever been single. I decided after my last relationship that I would for once be single by choice. I usually will allow myself a few months between relationships for recovery time but this last time around I decided I wanted to get to really see myself as a single woman. I must say this experience is quite liberating! It is so nice to be able to come and go as I please with no explanations, I can use my space heater on summer nights when I am sometimes chily, (yes I get cold often due to anemia) and no one complains of being roasted alive, If I fall asleep with the the television on no one cares. All I am saying is life is grand when you are the only one that you have to answer to. As women we are nurturers and caregivers and it is our nature to take care of everyone around us and I just want to add that we need to make sure to take care of ourselves. In light of recent life events I have been forced to reevaluate my life and the way I view it. Ok so back to my 40th birthday epiphany, I was so excited to turn 40! I didn’t think of it as a bad thing mostly because of the fact that I have been exposed to situations where people do not make it to 40, I lost one of my sisters to an aneurysm at the age of 31. My sister was a beautiful person and very caring individual, she had two children who were 16 and 8 at the time of her passing which my parents took in, Kudos to them for doing such a thing because my parents were senior citizens and all of their kids were grown. Well to make a long story short my niece and nephew are now both grown and functioning members of society thanks to lots of love from my parents and my other siblings. Now back to the subject at hand , I mentioned this because my sister was not expecting to pass away as most of us are not when something like this happens so with me being as close to her as I was it was very devastating and it changed my view of life forever. I was 26 at the time and from then on I looked at life as a gift, and aging as an honor and a privilege. As humans we spend so much time focusing on the unnecessary things and the trivial instead of being thankful for waking up in the morning, being able to get out of bed without assistance, having working limbs and functioning bowels, I know these things are “normal” but there are lots of people in the world that do not have those things and would be grateful if they were able to have them. So next time you are having a “bad day” look at someone in a situation that is much more detrimental before you start having a pity party for yourself. I think of things like there is someone out there who was diagnosed with a terminal illness, or losing a limb due to an accident , or even losing their life. These are the types of events and thoughts that keep me focused and grounded along with my love of god. I am living my life and loving it and very thankful for what I have. You might not be where you want to be in life but if you wake up in the morning its a good day, so have a positive attitude and spread joy where ever you can, smile and greet people where ever you go, uplift someone else’s spirit and thank god for yet another day to do it all again!